You've spent years making everyone else's life easier. Who's been looking out for you?
You don't need to become selfish to stop being selfless. You need tools to stand up for yourself — without stepping on others.
Is This You?
You say yes when you want to say no, then end up feeling resentful about it.
You feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings, but when it comes to your own you're often not even sure what they are.
You avoid conflict as much as possible, but it doesn't actually keep you from getting hurt.
You wonder if you're too sensitive, or if something is fundamentally wrong with you. Other people seem to be able to stand up for themselves, why can't you?
You feel exhausted, invisible, and like you don't even know who you are anymore.
If you find yourself nodding along as you read, you’re in the right place. I specialize in working with people just like you.
What results can you expect from our work together?
While it’s different for everyone, here are some common shifts past clients have experienced as a result of our work:
More clarity about who you are and what you actually want — not what everyone else expects you to be.
The ability to set limits and say no with confidence, instead of guilt or resentment.
A life that’s less reactive and more intentional.
A life that feels more like yours, instead of everyone else’s.
"I can’t think of one time in the last two years that I didn’t walk away from a session with Steve without some gem of an insight. Old limiting patterns that have plagued me my entire life have finally begun to dissolve. At first, I wondered if the cost would be worth it. Looking back, I find it hard to overstate the value of those sessions."
-DT
How it works
What’s the recipe for successful coaching? Well, I see it as similar to putting together a puzzle. We’ll start with the frame, but the process of filling it in is non-linear … just like life.
A goal for every coaching conversation, though, is to create a space where you get to be both who you truly are and where you actually are — no masks, no performing, no adapting for someone else's comfort.
Within that space, the work is collaborative. Your part is to talk about where you’re stuck & struggling. My role is to help you figure out where you want to go and to learn the tools and skills you need to get there. Then, you get to take that learning out into the world and apply it.
We meet twice a month for about an hour, by phone or video. Between sessions, I'm available for async support via text or email, because life doesn't always wait for appointments.
A little about me
I’m Steve — a coach and licensed therapist (CA MFT license #MFC43212) with over 20 years of experience. My own struggles with feeling like an outsider who was "too sensitive" and "too nice" during my 20s left me overwhelmed, angry, and ultimately depressed. My healing & recovery journey led me to this work, and since then I've had the privilege of supporting hundreds of people on their growth journeys.
When I’m not working, you can usually find me reading, playing games with my family, making music, or eating pizza & drinking something fizzy.
“Steve isn’t just going through the motions. He is truly invested in those who are willing to work hard, are open to change, and are willing to trust him to help with that process.”
- NS
What next?
If you’re looking to take back your life, without cutting everyone off or turning into a jerk, I can help. Let’s connect and see if it might be a fit to work together - you can send me an email with any questions you have or schedule a consultation.